Don't make the mistake of undervaluing yourself!
While on Twitter the other day, I made the ridiculous decision to reply to a tweet from Donald Trump. It was actually a valid question but I did pose it in a snarky fashion. – but it got the attention of some ‘conservative' followers.
I then made an even sillier decision to engage with said follower. After a bit of back and forth, the final comment that was made to me was ‘No wonder you're a single mom‘.
As though that is some kind of insult.
Now, this isn't the first time that my status as a single mom has been hurled at me as though it is something that I should be ashamed of. So I am used to it. But I always find it funny. Because I am completely OK with the fact that I am single.
In fact I LOVE being single. That is why I have been single for the past almost 12 years. I don't feel as though I am missing something being single.
Now, I know that isn't the case for everyone. And there are many of you single moms out there who really do want to find love and happiness. Which is totally great for you – it just isn't my cup of tea.
But it did get me thinking about how often single moms will undervalue themselves when looking for a partner. They will lower their standards, not just in the type of men they choose but in how they allow themselves to be treated.
Do you lower your standards?
What I mean by that, is that because they want to find someone so badly they can sometimes cling on to the first person who shows them attention. Even if that person is a total loser.
Starting that type of relationship usually ends up in heartbreak. OR they end up being very unhealthy relationships.
I know that may not ALWAYS be the case, but more often than not it is.
So when I say don't undervalue yourself I mean, don't think that just because you are a single mom you have to take just any old guy that comes your way. Make sure that the person you choose to give your time to understands what a gift that is.
I don't have the time for this…
We single moms have usually been through a lot. We don't have the time or energy to give to everyone. So if a single mom has decided that you are worth the gift of that time and energy – you better know how important that is.
Make sure that YOU know your value and that the person you choose to bring into your life knows how amazing that is. If they don't – then they aren't the one. They need to go.
I know that comes off as a bit cocky, but let's face it sisters – we don't have the time for a bunch of BS. So don't ever undervalue yourself again – get the treatment and love you deserve from someone who sees your value too!