The Single Mom Blog
  • Family Matters
    • Parenting Problems
    • Co-Parenting
    • The Ex Files
  • Money Matters
    • Mompreneur
    • Making Money
    • Saving Money
  • Health & Wellness
    • Self Care
    • Inspiration
  • Creative Corner
    • Fun Projects for Kids
    • Handmade Crafts
    • DIY
  • Resources
    • Free Resources
    • Downloads & Printables
    • Classes & Courses
    • This Single Mom Rocks
    • Products
  • About Me
  • Family Matters
    • Parenting Problems
    • Co-Parenting
    • The Ex Files
  • Money Matters
    • Mompreneur
    • Making Money
    • Saving Money
  • Health & Wellness
    • Self Care
    • Inspiration
  • Creative Corner
    • Fun Projects for Kids
    • Handmade Crafts
    • DIY
  • Resources
    • Free Resources
    • Downloads & Printables
    • Classes & Courses
    • This Single Mom Rocks
    • Products
  • About Me
  • Health & Wellness
    • Self Care
  • Family Matters
    • Parenting Problems
    • The Ex Files
  • Money Matters
    • Mompreneur
The Single Mom Blog

A Blog By Single Moms for Single Moms

  • Resources
    • Free Resources
    • Classes & Courses
  • Creative Corner
    • DIY
    • Fun Projects for Kids
    • Handmade Crafts
  • About Me
In The NewsPodcast

Stereotypes & Why Tucker Carlson Can Kiss My…

By Heather Wells Posted on January 6, 2019April 29, 2019 0 Comments 1498 views

If you know me, or have listened to some of my podcasts, you know that one of the things I dislike more than most anything is stereotypes. 

I do not like it when people put other people into a certain box, or judge them based on preconceived notions. Assuming they know a person’s situation before actually getting to know them.

This happens all to often to single mothers. I personally have experienced the following stereotypes:

– a slut
– a whore
– a welfare queen or scammer
– just lookin’ for a daddy for her kids
– mooching off the system
– your kids must be in jail
– you were probably a drug addict

And there have likely been more over the years.

So it stands to reason that I would absolutely despise when people just put stereotypes of single moms out there in the world. Especially people with large platforms.

People like Tucker Carlson.

Recently on his show Tucker did a piece on ‘Men in Decline’. In this piece he talked about how women were less likely to marry men who made less money than they did. 

How they SHOULD want to marry them but they more than likely don’t. 

Now, setting aside the insult that women are all apparently money hungry gold diggers, only interested in what a man earns. (I mean god forbid we marry for something as stupid as love.) It was his next statement that REALLY got my attention.

“Over big populations this causes a drop in marriage, a spike in out-of-wedlock births and all the familiar disasters that inevitably follow. More drug and alcohol abuse, higher incarceration rates, fewer families formed in the next generation.”

A spike in out-of-wedlock births and the familiar disasters that inevitably follow.

That my friends is a dig as single mothers and yet another stereotype of the children raised by single mothers. And yes, I know that there have been studies about it, and yes I know that it can and does happen. 

I also know that there are thousands of children raised by single moms who defy that stereotype. No jail time, no drug habits, no alcoholism. 

The Single Mom Blog, Tucker Carlson and stereotypes of kids raised by single moms

I also know some kids who grew up wealthy in two parent homes who ended up REALLY messed up. In fact, one study found that children in suburban, upper-middle-class families were actually more likely to use drugs and struggle with emotional problems thank kids in inner cities with struggling families. 

Also, can someone please tell me why single MOMS are always stereotyped but single dads are treated like they’re freakin’ amazing special unicorns. Single dads are treated like they are heroes for raising their children on their own but we get treated like pariahs?

Oh a single dad learned how to do his daughter’s hair – let’s make him go viral! Meanwhile here I am french braiding my daughter’s hair while simultaneously holding my phone with my shoulder calling my son into school because he has a fever of 103. WHILE the sheets he threw up in last night are running through the washing machine. All before 7 AM.

SINGLE MOMS DO THIS STUFF ALL THE TIME!!!!

WE don’t go viral, WE don’t usually get accolades from – well, anyone. Why are single dads not stereotyped the same way single moms are? 

Does anyone go around telling single dads that their daughters will probably end up drug addicts? Or prostitutes? Or in jail? Are single dads called sluts? No?

So why is that special judgement saved for us single moms?

But the biggest reason these stereotypes bug me so much – 

Is because sometimes when we hear them so many times, we can start to buy into them. We start thinking that we MUST be what they say we are.

We start thinking we will ALWAYS have to struggle or be on government assistance. Maybe it is our lot in life because we are single moms.

That is why those stereotypes do so much damage. And they are bullshit!

Don’t buy into them. Don’t listen to them. The struggle may be hard but you will not always have to struggle. 

You can set and achieve goals. You can find a way to make an amazing life for yourself and your kids. So tell people like Tucker Carlson they can shove their stupid stereotypes – you and your kids will be just fine!

PS. I actually give kudos to single dads just as much as I do other single moms. Any parent doing it on their own deserves all the praise in the world. So please don’t think I was picking on single dads. They are awesome too.

XOXO
signature

Share

0
helping single momsparentingparenting podcastSingle Momsingle mom blogsingle mom helpsingle mom podcastsingle mom stereotypessingle parentsingle parent podcaststereotypesThe Single Mom BlogTucker Carlson
Heather Wells
Heather is a single mother living in beautiful Colorado. She has 3 wonderful children; twin 20 year old young men and a 13 year old daughter. She has lived in Colorado for the better part of her life and is a stay at home work at home mother. She started her own business over 12 years ago and is happily, albeit precariously, balancing her work and personal lives. She spent over 8 years struggling financially and emotionally as a single parent before discovering how shifts in mindset and attitude can bring forth amazing changes in her life. Now her mission is to help other single moms stop the constant struggle and start creating success in their lives through the Single Mom Blog and Podcast.
Stereotypes & Why Tucker Carlson Can Kiss My…

previously

2019: How Will You Ring In The Year?
Stereotypes & Why Tucker Carlson Can Kiss My…

up next

Suddenly Single Mom – Learning to be the Primary Care Giver

What do you think? Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

No Comments Yet.

Welcome!

Welcome!

I'm Heather and I am a single mother to 3 amazing children. I started this blog to help other single moms like me find inspiration, support, ideas and hopefully a few laughs.

I am glad that you are here - remember you are not alone!

signature

Follow Me

Most Recent Pins

Co-Parenting

Tips on Co-Parenting a Newborn: Post-Separation and Divorce
Co-Parenting

Tips on Co-Parenting a Newborn: Post-Separation and Divorce

Posted on March 9, 2022
Parenting Agreements – Do You Need One?
Co-ParentingFamily MattersParenting ProblemsPodcast

Parenting Agreements – Do You Need One?

Posted on April 29, 2019

Follow Me On Instagram! Follow Me!

No any image found. Please check it again or try with another instagram account.
  • Do It Yourself
  • Money Matters
  • Most Recent Posts
  • The Ex Files
Copyrights © 2019 BUZZBLOGPRO. All Rights Reserved.